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tangled sheets

I didn't get into the habit of making my bed when I was growing up.  It really never occurred to me, except on those rare occasions when I cleaned my room thoroughly. I remember a coworker mentioning that he was this way until he got married. The first time he left the bed unmade, his wife asked why and he said he was just going to get into it that night anyway. She blew up and he no longer left his bed unmade. I laughed when he told me this but it didn't change me.

There were the forays I made into house cleaning methods - the "SHE" method - the "Messies" books. In the seventies and then later I took these guides to heart and even made some progress in cleaning up my house and making my bed. Each time, though, I slipped back into the old habits. What they say about habits isn't really true, not for me. I can do a thing a hundred times - I have, in fact - and still slip back out of the habit.

More recently I entered into flylady land. Flylady is based on the SHE books, but uses yahoo messages instead of little index cards as reminders. With flylady leading the way, I started making my bed. I did it for over a year, maybe two now. I have slipped lately, though. Mainly I have slipped because of another habit I started forming one or two years ago - changing the sheets every week. What's been happening is that when Sunday morning comes I don't immediately rip the sheets off the bed and take the fresh ones from the closet shelf. I leave the bed unmade because I'm supposed to be changing the sheets anyway. And so it goes on through the week - I leave it unmade, because maybe this will be the day I change the sheets - until the next weekend comes and I then finally change the sheets. The longest I have gone is three weeks, with the sheets and blanket and comforters getting progressively more tangled amidst themselves. Because the cats use the bed during the day it acquires tufts of fur, piles of dirt, little grasses and stickers. These additions really make sleeping comfortable.

Yesterday I ended a bed-making fast (would that be the right way to put it?) by changing the sheets. And lo! By rotation the sheets for this week are those lovely cotton ones with the lace trim. Last night's sleep was practically a dream in comparison to the last two or three weeks. Making the bed and changing the sheets is a thing I do for myself that helps me feel valued. I must remember this.


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Dec. 13th, 2004 02:45 am (UTC)
Making the bed and changing the sheets is a thing I do for myself that helps me feel valued. I must remember this.

A simple thing, but worth the small amount of time it takes.

Funny: I remind myself I'm valuable to someone when I use sparkly nailpolish! Who knows why?

(I like to change my sheets, make the bed perfectly, and then--when I've forgotten all about it--there it is when I go to bed to read! It seems so luxurious suddenly!)

(I threw out all my old sheets last year when I discovered Egyptian cotton. Now I just have two sets, which is quite enough.)

Dec. 13th, 2004 05:06 am (UTC)
when I've forgotten all about it--there it is when I go to bed to read! It seems so luxurious suddenly!)

Exactly! It is such a luxury, as if I am staying at a hotel. I hope I never get over that feeling.

Egyptian cotton...I'm going to have to find some of that. It was quite a treat when I found these nice all-cotton sheets. Now the others are in-betweeners. I could possibly live with two sets but I like having four, always knowing there are fresh ones up there.
Dec. 13th, 2004 10:43 am (UTC)
I always had to make my bed each morning. It was not an option to not do it.

Now, I feel like I have the right to never make my bed because I honestly couldn't care less. I do like clean sheets of course, although for me, I put the sheets on and flop down. My Bed spread is happily in a heap. =)
Dec. 13th, 2004 12:07 pm (UTC)
good for you
i do similar things wrt sheets & bed-making (i was brought up to always make my bed, i use that term always very loosely now!) and now my fav part of changing sheets (besides having a new set of colors/textures to delight me) is slipping into the clean, fresh sheets after a bath or shower. sometimes i even spray a bit of lavender water on them. i like and deserve to have beautiful nice things next to my body. :o)
Dec. 13th, 2004 01:05 pm (UTC)
Re: good for you
Lavendar water! Well I never!!

hmmm...worth a try...
Dec. 15th, 2004 03:48 pm (UTC)
Messes are ME
I create messes whereever I go. I am only getting better at being more ruthless at throwing things out, but I still end up with stacks of things. My new approach is to completely let go of it...in some areas. My partner wanted to clean the bathroom. I did not hold on to any thing. Go for it, I said. It will be good for both of us. I really don't know why I have so much stuff. I have never had a clean office. For years I have spent weekends cleaning my office, still to end up with objects squeezed in and over other objects, which I hate. And I thought I was being really good.I gave away a carload of books. I don't buy many books. I give away books I am not going to re-read. Still, more stuff.

My new theory is that it is easier to AQUIRE than it is to GIVE UP. When you aquire, you are given this adorable packaging, and shiny new things, and all the fun around that. When you give up, you are tasked with finding someone who will take it. I had to pay money to get rid of a computer!!! We had two young artists come to our house to look at a workbench we were selling. Heheheh. They did not get away easy. Along with the workbench they picked up a computer for free. And we had more space!!!!
Dec. 15th, 2004 05:33 pm (UTC)
Re: Messes are ME
I've managed to get people to come get my computer and a few other things through freecycle, and I too toss stuff all the time...yet still have much to get through. A lot of the deal is just having the energy and inspiration to get on it every day, of course.

Now that Mary and Elaine both have their "own" homes, they are more inclined to collect some of their stuff from their past lives. This too will help. THat stuff is in my house.

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