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Swimming pool

When I moved into this place about 20 years ago, I was happy that the pool was right across the street. My kids could go swimming there and I could keep an eye on them easily, and we could go back and forth quickly.

These days, though, my children are gone and in place of them there are screamers at the pool. They scream like their lives are in danger, and they scream for hours - hours - at a time. I wonder that their voices don't go. It's usually just one or maybe two doing all the screaming, which suggests to me that not everyone feels the need. That not everyone has to express themselves in this way.

At times I want to go over there and tell them to shut up but so far I have resisted.

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madame_ugly
Jun. 21st, 2006 01:39 pm (UTC)
I feel your pain.

It's nice to hear this from a mother.

I can't stand the constant shrieking of the plethora of neighborhood sproggen. But I thought it was just because I'm an evil child hating shrew!
judith
Jun. 21st, 2006 01:56 pm (UTC)
I think what saved me as a mother, as much as I have been saved, is that my tolerance of some things is low. Particularly I couldn't handle my children disturbing others in public. So if we went out to eat and one of them acted up and wouldn't stop, I would take them out. Same in stores. If one started screaming I would just leave immediately.

I have a serious aversion to screaming, so somehow I managed to convey to my children that screaming for no purpose wasn't going to get them anywhere, and particularly screaming whenever they were hurt mildly. There was a girl down the street from us who set off screaming whenever she was looked at the wrong way and it drove me nuts.

I didn't preach at my children, I just took them away when they were disturbing others. I hear other mothers screaming at their children and I find the mom's screaming worse than the children's.

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