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I think sometimes we tend, some of us, to remember the bad things people say about us longer than we remember the good. To make sure I don't do that I am recording two recent compliments here:

Yesterday as I was standing in line at Starbucks, a woman I had never seen before asked me if my hair "did that naturally". I said yes, and she said I was very lucky. It was beautiful.

Today Carolyn was looking at my report on second units and she shook her head and said "If you could get paid for what you write you'd be a rich woman". Of course I *do* get paid, my hourly rate, but I knew what she meant.

A while back, years ago actually, my then-supervisor told me he was envious of my writing ability. Said he struggled every time he had to write something and would write and rewrite and it still wouldn't sound right, and here I was just tossing it out there off the top of my head. Or so he thought. I pointed out that I had spent quite a bit of time consciously teaching myself to write better and I still do. But he felt I had an edge he would never have.

What's nice is when people compliment things that I have actually worked on, that I have strived to do well. The hair? Well, what the hell, I chose a good hair stylist, had good hair genes.

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studentdriver51
Feb. 5th, 2003 08:37 pm (UTC)
I understand exactly what you mean.
It is hardly a compliment, however it is meant, to have a person tell you, "You're so tall!" as if it was something I had anything to do with. I think it is the same thing with things I am naturally good at, like singing or mathematics. I think I am only able to accept compliments as deserved when they are concerning things I have to struggle with, like dancing or languages or playing a musical instrument.
judith
Feb. 5th, 2003 10:24 pm (UTC)
Re: I understand exactly what you mean.
The other day, when I was getting my hair done, the subject of the chorale came up. Cindy said she didn't know I sang. She said "You don't know how lucky you are, to be able to sing."

I said, "Yes, actually, I do. I feel very lucky." And I do. And yes, I learned how to read notes, but I did have that gift to begin with. She hit on the right way to see it. I often feel lucky.

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