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One of my coworkers lost her brother in an auto accident several weeks ago. She took time off to arrange the funeral and grieve, and is back at work. This morning I got a Christmas card from her, with a letter enclosed that was her description of how this death changed her perception of what was important. She asked, in the letter, if I had found my way to God. She enclosed a copy of a little book called "It's Who You Know", a tract on "the most important relationship". In her letter she apologized if she offended me but said she would take that chance.

I had to give her credit for putting it out there. I am not religious, do not believe in God, and I usually appreciate when people keep their beliefs to themselves. Yet, being a person who holds other very strong beliefs, I sometimes want to risk a friendship by taking a stand. So I am not offended by her action - it wasn't personal, anyway, I am sure her letter was a mail-merge document.

I was offended when I learned that someone else in the department was praying for me so I wouldn't go to Hell.

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prom
Dec. 26th, 2002 11:35 am (UTC)
why would they pray that for you?
do they think there's a reserved space down there with your name on it or something? sheesh!!
judith
Dec. 26th, 2002 11:49 am (UTC)
Re: why would they pray that for you?
This is one of my born-again coworkers. She prayed for my soul because she knew I do not believe in God. It wasn't anything I'd done or said, just my lack of belief in her god.

Well-meaning but jeez.
student_eng
Dec. 26th, 2002 09:49 pm (UTC)
hmmm
I hate it when people press their views on others. And I respect everyone's beliefs. But this thing of going to hell, because of a lack of belief in a religion is just simply does not make sense. I believe in myself...

Have a happy New year!
ranunculus
Dec. 27th, 2002 08:19 pm (UTC)
Have you ever watched the movie Steel Magnolias? With Dolly Parton (which of course is one reason to be suspicious of the movie, but it's worth seeing anyway!) It has a character that resembles your co-worker.

judith
Dec. 27th, 2002 09:50 pm (UTC)
I've not only seen the movie, but have also played the part of Ouizer in the first act of the play, in an amateur production.

I liked Dolly Parton in there (and in 9 to 5 as well).

The born-again coworker was a little tough to take for a while. Every time I went into the break room she was there reading some kind of religious tract and would get into discussions of her various self-improvement groups, held at her church. Somewhere along the line I let her know I did not believe. I tend to keep quiet about these things because I don't want to get into the discussion. But I made that mistake. And so she soon after was praying for me, I learned through someone else.
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