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Mary's moving out, definitely, at the end of the month.

A few days ago her dad said "All I want is that picture in the bathroom, the paper towel holder, and (some other thing I can't remember)".

Mary said, "You can't have the paper towel holder."

Her dad: "That's all I want. Everything else goes."

Somehow he has turned this situation around, not acknowledging his part in the failure of this experiment. Now Mary is under pressure to get her stuff out of the house. Mary was the one who said this thing isn't working out, but now it is looking, to him, like he is kicking her out.

After I moved out, left him, when my girls were three and five, he said something to me about how I could get him back if I did certain things. Suggesting that he left me, that I would want him back.

Whenever I worry that he will dwell on his insufficiencies and fall into deep depression, I need to remember that his inner world is no doubt miles away from what I may be imagining.

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evilmomlady
Dec. 15th, 2002 04:11 pm (UTC)
Glad to see you back.
bryantcafe
Dec. 15th, 2002 07:18 pm (UTC)
Mary deserves better, is capable of better
Mary deserves (as we all do) relationships with people who will carry their end. It is important to come to terms with the fact that some people at this point in their development are incapable of being part of a working scene. Obviously Roy is clueless. Good luck to Mary for a better place.
ex_kim_hatto286
Dec. 15th, 2002 10:26 pm (UTC)
probably miles - and then some...
So how are you? e-mail me?
XX
Kim
ex_kim_hatto286
Dec. 15th, 2002 10:36 pm (UTC)
Re:..."what happened"
was it stupid? Why do people assume something BAD has happened when you take leave?
Kim
xx
tenderflower
Dec. 16th, 2002 04:30 am (UTC)
Re: Dodging Roger : Temptation
I haven't had the best luck with Dads being responsible like we Mother's are involving the care of our children- or even behaving responsibly like a parent should- but maybe Mary's relationship with her father is different. There may also be some thing that you don't know about on his end- are your friends with him to the point where you can discuss this? It may be insightful. In any case, try to not let his shortcomings color your mood- it's too darned easy to get depressed! Love you and wish you the best this holiday season, Ab
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