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LifeTime movie. I am wondering, not for the first time, about the flirty kind of talk men and women have in these movies. I can't imagine having conversations like that. Is it me? I think it is.

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susandennis
Nov. 2nd, 2002 12:05 pm (UTC)
It could be you, but it's me, too.
judith
Nov. 5th, 2002 09:19 am (UTC)
That, for some reason, makes me feel better. Sometimes I feel so completely out of touch with the rest of the world. Sometimes it feels good, of course, but not always.
susandennis
Nov. 5th, 2002 09:32 am (UTC)
You've done it again
You are amazing. Your comments are always so productive. Either they make me feel better about me (which is certainly wonderful in itself) or they make me think (which doesn't suck either).

I've been thinking a lot lately about how much LiveJournal has come to mean to me and why it is so important and what makes it that way, etc. And I think your comment nails all the answers in one.

When you are a strong and opinionated person like me and when you live alone like me without a whole lot of face to face people interaction outside of work, you have no way of knowing if you are veering off center. You get no feedback - no one who knows you enough to really know to tell you that you are wrong. Going through my days without a lot of feedback to keep me on course could get dangerous.

LJ gives me that feedback. I learn that my whacky ideas may still be whacky but they are shared by others so that kind of validates them for me.

I don't mind being one of a few... but I like to know there are a couple of others out there. Being one of one, generally means I'm wrong.

It's nice to know that sometimes I'm not.
judith
Nov. 5th, 2002 10:48 am (UTC)
Re: You've done it again
You are giving me too much credit. I certainly can relate to what you are saying, though. I am highly opinionated, mostly hermit-like at home, keep in contact with friends mostly online. It really does help to have friends, online or not, who are similar in some ways, who can relate to some of our parts.

I am in a "low social-action" group. That is, I tend to count fewer friends and acquaintances than does the average person. I am not outgoing in public, do not party or go to bars, and I am finding that the coffee places I frequent do not have the same interaction among people that bars do. Being introspective by nature, I am rarely bored - I can honestly not think of a time when I have been - because I can keep my mind busy no matter where I am. I think this means I often appear disconnected to my environment, like I am on the outside looking in (because that's what I am doing). So people do not tend to approach me and I only rarely approach other people.

I really notice the difference in styles when I am with my daughter mary. She is outgoing, friendly, active, "in the moment", and attractive. She sees people she knows all the time - in the most unlikely places (to me). ANd she meets new people all the time.

At times I have lamented my state and have tried to change my nature. I think there is something fundamental about it, though. There is only so much change I can make without sacrificing parts of myself I consider too valuable. My position as observer leads to thinking and writing and learning. When I am entirely a participant I lose part of that ability. I haven't yet found the balance that works.

Anyway, as a fellow hermit, I'm so glad to have found you. There really aren't very many of us.
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