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30 Days: gay parents

I am watching 30 Days, the show where a person goes into a household that holds opposing beliefs for thirty days. It's a challenge for both sides.

In this case a Christian woman who is opposed to gay adoptions stayed at the home of a gay couple who adopted. At the end of 30 days she holds onto her beliefs.

What bothered me is that the gay couple and their friends offered reasons for finding the adoptions okay that did not get to the core issues:

* where in the bible is it actually written that gay couples shouldn't adopt? My suspicion is that it isn't anywhere. I know that the so-called references to gays is quite an interpretation too. And I know there are no mentions at all of abortion. So it would have made sense, to me, for the couple to ask Katie, the visitor, where it said they shouldn't adopt a child.

* the question of whether a gay couple should adopt or not was presented as one of many needy children and few families available to them; better to have gay parents than no parents at all. This argument actually makes the gay couple look like a last resort. Better to make the case that there is no significant difference in the mental or physical health of children raised by gay couples or straight.

Really, not enough homework on either side. And if Katie had dug into her bible to make her case she might have been shocked and converted herself before she even visited the gay couple.

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madame_ugly
Jun. 26th, 2008 06:20 pm (UTC)
Ooh, fundies vs the gays, one of my favorite topics. I have to ask (since I'll probably never see this show you're refering to), did the religious woman trot out the Soddom and Gahmora (sp) story? I just *love* when they use that one.

Anyway, I agree with you most heartily on your second point. I always got that same impression (that saying "gay parents is better than none" was kind of a back handed compliment).

But what really irritates me about this whole "gays shouldn't adopt" thing is the fundies (yes, I use that word liberally to blanket all religious zealots, it's fun to say and type) who scream this mantra are also the ones standing outside the Planned Parenthood and bellow about saving the babies. But how many kids have they adopted? They're so concerned about the future of these unborn "babies" but they themselves won't adopt them and THEN they want to limit the pool even further by denying gay people the right to adopt?

What is it, fundies? Do you care about these precious "babies" or not? Oh, wait, you only care about them BEFORE they are born. Once they take that first gasp of air, they're on their own.

judith
Jun. 26th, 2008 06:37 pm (UTC)
What was odd about the fundie in this case is that she didn't quote any scripture. I got the impression that she "simply believed", that she did not search herself for any answers but took those given by her church. There was one point when she said the whole thing was so hard because it made her have to search inside herself. Obviously not a thing she did often.

To be fair, she seemed to be trying to understand. Just agreeing to stay with a gay couple for 30 days puts her above a lot of others. She also would say things like "I don't have anything against you. I just believe gay couples shouldn't adopt". She didn't give any reasons other than that it was against her beliefs, her religion. She could see for herself that the children adopted in this case had good parents and she made a point of saying it wasn't about parenting, it was what God told her.

That whole "faith" thing.
madame_ugly
Jun. 26th, 2008 06:49 pm (UTC)
Those kind of fundies irritate me more than the screaming, bible thumping types. I really think they give religion a bad wrap, making it seem like all faithful/religious (whatever word you want to use) types are patients who have been lobotomized by the Lord.

Did her host family ask her what she would do if one of her children was gay? I always like that reaction, too.
judith
Jun. 26th, 2008 11:55 pm (UTC)
No, I don't recall anyone asking that question. I am sure she would have waffled around it.

There is indeed a lobotomy nature to religion. Leave your brain at the door. How can this be a good thing?

(Anonymous)
Jul. 5th, 2008 03:05 am (UTC)
By the way, she was LDS so it's not just the bible, it's The Book of Mormon. I don't think she'd be convinced by anything. Her beliefs are way too strong and deep.
judith
Jul. 5th, 2008 03:18 am (UTC)
Probably not, but mainly because she doesn't question them. She can't, in a way.
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